Modesty of Marriage

When I look at my grandparents' happy marriage I am filled with warmth and security, knowing that they fully and truly devoted their love and lives to each other. I'm an old-fashioned kind of girl, born to a modern world. And I believe in love so true that not an issue of status, family, or monetary setback could detriment a relationship filled with honest and pure love.

Naturally, that Utopian hope for a fairy tale-like relationship can only survive in hopes and dreams (and old Disney classic cartoons), what with society's inability to cope with minute problems. The more I read about relationship advice, the more I feel the world is losing its depth to the shallowness of its people's flimsy minds.

Worse still I have recently read, seen and heard of SO many women settling for their Mr. Right Now-s because their biological clocks are ticking ever so loudly it deafens all concept of self-respect and perseverance. While I completely hate the idea of settling for Que-Sera-Sera, I am saddened to understand why they do it.

Don't Miss The Boat!

Because marriage has become a rat-race for women, especially in their 30s. It scares the shit out of me watching women around me get engaged in glee, knowing that they cannot honestly accept their partner's imperfections. But whatever right? Better be married than to be a lonely old loser.

Wrong!

A person can be lonely in a marriage. Marriage would then be cheapened for its title, and women who marry in haste would have been cheapened by the whole idea of marriage.

The Modesty of Marriage

Marriage is not just the next step in a relationship. Getting engaged is not the cool, fun, attention-seeking thing that you could do as a couple. It's a union for life, and a commitment to each other as a whole. It's building a life together, loving and understanding each other wholly and unconditionally. It is about sharing life and death and everything in between. It goes deeper than just being the couple who got married in 2011.

I also know I am an intense lover (the complete opposite of my realistic lover, which results in a strange but near-perfect balance). But I know that when I say I do, I do take the other half as a part of me, a completion of my being, a source of comfort and my pillar of strength. Our children will be truly a product of our love as a whole, and not just the next visible step towards achieving the 'correct' life.

But who's to say anyone's marriage can or cannot achieve Nirvana? Better to have the modesty of marriage in your mind than to treat it like the next show and tell project. That way you can never be disappointed whether it works out or otherwise.